Angel Moms
Newsletter-Nov. 2001
November Dates
Nov. 4, 2000-Georgiana's daughter Myranda Lyn became an Angel cookster52@home.com
Nov. 6, 1996-Debbie's son Josh Ginter became an Angel MsBBSITTER@aol.com
Nov. 10, 1990-Tina's son Jeremy became an Angel cookiemom1974@hotmail.com
Nov. 11, 1986-Diane's son Michael became an Angel dianeking54@juno.com
Nov. 18, 1979-Peggy's daughter Shelley Beasley was born MyMarie18@aol.com
Nov. 18, 1999-Rosemary's son Shawn Adams became an Angel rosab@alaska.net
Nov. 19, 1999-Janine's daughter Alexa Noel became an Angel AcapellaAngel@aol.com
Nov. 22, 1997-Karen's granddaughter Ashley Marie became an Angel kam@emeraldis.com
Nov. 26, 1979-Lindalee's son Christopher Bennett was born linnybenny 1947@hotmail.com
Nov. 30, 1966-Terry's son Nicholas Bruni was born TT48@aol.com
Nov. 30, 2000-Connie's son Shane Mohney became an Angel Tacar123@aol.com
Featured Mom
This months featured Mom is Carin Furgison
Hi everyone, I’m Carin (aka toad). I consider it an honor to be chosen as AngelMom of the Month! As I am not adept at writing about myself, please bear with me.
I lost my infant son, Timothy Andrew, 30 years ago. I will tell all of you now, the pain does not go away (though it does lessen over the years) and you never ever forget the angel that you’ve lost.
My little Angel lived but 14 hours. He was the “victim” of Intrauterine Growth Retardation and Hylaline Membrane Disease. Basically this means that even though I carried him to full term, he was technically two months premature. His lungs were under developed so he couldn’t breathe.
I have been married for 32 years. Dale and I have had our ups and downs but have pretty much been happy.
We have a daughter, Theresa Marie, who is 31. We also have 3 beautiful grandsons, Skyler Timothy, who is 5, Jonathan Taylor, who is a very busy 2 and Matthew Wayne who was born Oct. 4.
I have never been a believer in miracles…until a John Edward program. I was working at my computer and hubby was watching the show. I heard “AngelMoms” and turned around and listened. I then went back to my computer and started searching. I found this group. I joined and cried for days! You see, I was never really permitted to mourn my son. I heard “it’s for the best”, “at least he didn’t live long enough for you to get attached to him”, he’s in a better place”, you’re young, you’ll have more”.
Shortly after joining the group, I was making a trip to my hometown, a yearly trip to see friends. Before I left, I wrote Dale a letter, told him about the group and that while I was home, I was going to the cemetery (I hadn’t been in 28 years) and talk to Timmy and do some apologizing. When I returned home, we needed to talk.
It was at this time that I found out my daughter was 6 months pregnant with her third son. She waited that long to tell us because her doctor had told her that she would most probably miscarry before her 5th month. She has diabetes which has affected her kidneys.
This made me think…how on earth am I going to help her if the worst happens when I haven’t even taken care of my own grieving!
Talk we did!! Little did I know all the feelings that Dale had bottled up inside of him! We talked and cried for days. Dale filled in a lot of memory gaps that I had, and I filled in a couple of his.
I then told my daughter what I had done, and SHE had questions! There were a lot of things that she had wondered about, but had always been afraid to ask because Timmy was NEVER mentioned in our home. Floodgates opened again!
To make a long story a little shorter, Timmy is now spoken of openly in our family, we burn a candle for him every night and this year for the very first time, he will have a stocking hung on the mantle at Christmas.
Angel Moms has been a miracle in my life. Because of them I have my son back and have started through the grieving process…something that should have been done many years ago.
Timmy's Page
Poetry Section
To My Little Brother
by Roger A. Bowles, 2001
I always had my own life, always looking forward, never turning back;
To see what I might be leaving behind;
To see if anyone was following;
Always looking for a world I couldn't seem to find.
You were always there, right behind me, watching my footsteps;
Living your own life but watching mine;
Loving me but always wondering;
Why you and I just never seemed to have any time.
It never occurred to me, that one day, it would be too late;
That I would one day realize the cost;
Of living in my own little world;
And now what used to be forever is lost.
Now all I have is the memories, the pictures, and the regret;
Of all of the many wasted years;
We didn't get to know each other,
Share our dreams, our hopes, our fears.
So now that you are up in heaven, looking in on my life;
I hope that you will forgive me;
For not being the true friend,
And brother I had really hoped to be.
I know these words are too little, and many years too late;
Even though I thought you knew;
I just needed to write it down,
And let you know that I love you.
Submitted by Martha, Kevin and Roger's Mom
Message Board
We now have a message board for members who can't handle all the e-mail. Please do not share this link with anyone, the message board is for members only.
Angel Moms Message Board
Births
Matthew Wayne Bryant
Born: Oct. 4, 2001
Weight: 9 pounds 3 ounces
Length: 21 inches
Proud Grandma is Carin!
Mommy is Theresa
Proud big brothers are Skylar and Jonathon
Hopefull soon Heidi's little one will be making her appearance. Heidi sure is ready! :o)
New Members
We had quite a few new members join Angel Moms last month. Although we are sorry you have a reason to belong to a group like ours, we are glad you found us. Welcome!
Also, if you wanted a web page created for your child and have not been contacted about one, please contact Judi
November 17, 2001 is
National Suicide Survivors Prevention Awareness Day
We honor our members who lost their children to suicide. Let's light a candle in memory of these children on November 17th.
A Thought
We are,each of us, Angels with one wing
and we can only fly by embracing one another.
Submitted by Rosemary
Craft Exchange
For those who are in the craft exchange, please remember to have your craft in the mail no later that Nov. 9th. If you have any questions, e-mail Deb
Angel Moms Web Site
Editors: Judi, Deb, Debbie